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Benefits to Being the Oldest in a Family

  • You set the precedence for every other child.

Every rule, every milestone will happen for the other kids only when it happens to you first. You are essentially where everything begins. You are the model for everything your brothers and sisters will ever get. You are the gauge for every important milestone — If you get a TV in your room at 12 years old, then your younger siblings will want to be 12 too. You are the example — whether it comes to try a musical instrument, going out on a date, or even just getting the chance to pick the paint color for your own room. That bar is set with you. In addition, you will get to try more things. Depending on your experience (and your parents’), chances are your siblings getting to try new things may get lost as the years go by. If you fall in love with Boy Scouts, other younger brothers might be nudged in that direction too.

 

  • You never have hand-me-downs.

Let’s face it…we all like to have new clothes. There is just something about putting on something that isn’t found in any other family pictures with your brother wearing the same outfit 2 years earlier. However, having two of my sons just 13 months apart, their clothes were practically interchangeable. The only guarantee the younger ones were getting new clothes is if we were doing a family picture and we all needed to wear matching clothes. Even that backfired on me once — we just don’t talk about the striped sweaters anymore. If you are the oldest, you are going to get stuff with the tags still attached, and sometimes, you are glad you have moved away from the velcro shoes that light up when you walk.

  •  You never have to share a room.

Especially as you get older, the oldest child ends up getting his or her own room because “they need their privacy.” The younger kids don’t even know what that means, but they want it to. Growing up, I loved never having to share a room with my sisters and it meant I had one place in the whole house that was MY place. Growing up, it was where I could do my homework, listen to my music, and basically, whatever I wanted. The hardest part of having your own space was keeping it to yourself. In my case, my little sisters went to great extremes to be with me — even when I didn’t want to be with them. (Side note, today we are all very close and very good friends.)

 

  •  You are given more responsibility.

Sometimes, this was a burden more than a good thing. I became the automatic babysitter for my younger siblings, but many times because they required more care and attention, I usually was left to fend for myself more. Don’t worry, I never really got into any trouble when given the benefit of the doubt — I was too much of a goody-two-shoes to try anything too crazy. But being the oldest meant you didn’t have to prove yourself right away. Your parents didn’t know what you would or would not try because they couldn’t compare you to “what your older brother or sister did.” Being the oldest, I became very independent as I transitioned into an adult.

  • You have more childhood pictures.

As a mom of three, I know I took more pictures of my oldest son than I did of the other two. I am hoping they don’t notice. With one child, your time and attention are devoted to that child — you don’t have to split your time between other kids and you can even tag team your spouse to fill in when you need a break. With our three boys all under the age of six, we were completely outnumbered and because of that, we probably missed a few really great pictures of the younger two. Not that you have a shrine built in your honor, but finding a childhood picture for the yearbook is much easier for the oldest children. I’m just saying.

 

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Description: Master a simple beauty routine that fits your busy schedule. Quick makeup, skincare, and hair tips that make you look put-together without sacrificing precious time.


It was 7:43 AM on a Monday.

My alarm had failed. I had a 9 AM meeting across town. And I looked like I'd just crawled out of a cave—puffy eyes, pillow creases on my cheek, hair doing things that defied physics.

I had exactly 12 minutes to transform from disaster to presentable professional.

Here's what I didn't do: panic-apply a full face of makeup, attempt an elaborate hairstyle, or convince myself I could "fix it at work."

Here's what I did: executed my emergency routine—a strategic, streamlined process I'd perfected through countless rushed mornings.

Twelve minutes later, I walked out looking genuinely put-together. Not Instagram-perfect, not like I'd spent an hour getting ready, but polished, awake, and confident. Nobody at that meeting suspected I'd been unconscious fifteen minutes earlier.

That morning crystallized something I'd been learning slowly: looking good doesn't require time you don't have. It requires knowing which steps actually matter and executing them efficiently.

Today, I'm sharing the complete simple beauty routine that works for women who have actual lives—jobs, commitments, responsibilities that don't pause while you contour. This isn't about looking like you spent an hour getting ready. It's about looking like the best version of yourself in the time you actually have.

Because here's the truth: beauty routines that require 90 minutes every morning are beautiful in theory and useless in practice.

Let's build something that actually works.

The Philosophy: Strategic, Not Elaborate

Before diving into specific steps, let's establish the framework that makes quick beauty routines effective.

The Three Pillars of Quick Beauty

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One product doing three jobs beats three products doing one job each. Tinted moisturizer with SPF beats separate moisturizer, sunscreen, and foundation.

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3. Strategic Preparation

Five minutes of Sunday prep saves thirty minutes across the week. Simplified beauty happens mostly before you're rushing.

What This Routine Delivers

You will look: Awake, polished, fresh, put-together, intentional

You won't look: Instagram-perfect, heavily made-up, like you spent hours

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Skill required: Minimal—if you can brush your teeth, you can do this

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